Inspired by a youth who wrote in to us today and originally written on my other blog:
Anger is an emotion that we all have from time to time and frankly, it can be good sometimes. It helps to motivate you to stand up for yourself and other times may even protect you. However, anger can become a problem when it controls you. We all remember seeing the two or four year in the supermarket or the local mall thrashing, kicking, screaming and throwing himself on the floor with a meltdown. He or she, are often too young to recognize what he is feeling. Parents will help him by soothing him and “trying to calmly” say things like “I know you are upset right now” which is awesome that his anger is acknowledged. And the parent stays by the youth (a bit further to avoid getting kicked) but close enough so the child does not feel alone. No one feels good with such exploding emotions…not even adults. Imagine that child who has no clue what to name what? So in time we keep repeating phrases, like, “Use your words” and in time he does. And the ever popular one when you don’t give in to buy that chocolate bar that is on the counter to tempt the wee ones at the cash register, “I HATE YOU!” and we know they don’;t mean it but they are still expressing their anger.
Speaking with youths daily, I get to hear of many different ways they express their anger and that part can be worrisome. On the positive side, they are phoning for help, and trying to learn more strategies to manage their anger. Some even resort to unhealthy coping behaviour trying to deal with such intense feelings. They have not yet had the opportunity to learn different strategies to cope with intense emotions. However, I admire their determination and courage when they phone.
How do you deal with anger?
I found this adorable video we recommend to youths below and frankly it is really cool!
© Cheryl-Lynn Roberts 2015/04/02